你有沒有回頭想過,為什么人生遇到的人和事,總是不由我們完全控制?我們曾經挽留過不少人,也錯失了一些機會,可最終才會慢慢明白:凡事都得隨緣,強求反而徒增煩惱。
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01.人生的相逢,都是緣分使然
年少時,總覺得自己可以改變一切。遇見了喜歡的人,就拼命想靠近他們;碰到了機會,就拼命抓住不放。可一路走來才發現,有些人注定只是你生命中的過客,有些事情無論再努力,都可能離你遠去。
記得有一次老同學聚會,剛開始都熱絡得很,可后來大家各自忙碌,逐漸疏遠,其實在心里難免遺憾。但仔細想想,這或許就是緣分的自然流轉。緣深的時候,多聚聚,多聊聊;緣淺了,就順其自然,不必太糾結。
生活中,我們總是和“緣分”打交道。對父母,對朋友,對伴侶,都在一個“隨緣”的狀態下維系著。太用力地攥,反而讓彼此疲憊。反思一下,現在還有誰是你死死抓著,卻越來越遠的人呢?
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02.學會放下,才能活得更自在
人到中年,我們逐漸明白了一點:有些煩惱,根本不用揪著不放。比如子女長大后、:自己的生活,很多父母還習慣插手。其實隨緣,尊重他們的選擇,你會發現家庭關系輕松多了。
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包括身體健康、事業起落,很多時候也是“能做則做,不能做隨緣”。悟透了這一層,人就不會那么焦慮,也不會因為失去某些東西而痛苦不堪。
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03.隨緣是一種智慧,也是一種灑脫
凡事都得隨緣,本質上不是消極的,而是一種順勢而為。我們努力過,但也要允許事與愿違。
思考一下,這一輩子,我們到底能留下什么?無非是一些愿意與你分享快樂和痛苦的人,一段愿意被你珍重的時光。如果緣分深,彼此多聚聚,就是幸福;若是緣分淺,就隨它去,不必惋惜,給對方一個微笑,讓回憶美好。
隨緣,不代表無心,也不代表冷漠。隨緣,是懂得“留白”,懂得人生不能樣樣具備,卻可以盡情享受眼前的每一刻。
很多中老年朋友說,越是年齡大了,越感覺時間寶貴,也越懂得了隨緣的重要。家里空了,可以享受安靜;老伴出門了,可以獨自散步。緣分說聚就聚,說散就散,坦然接受,反而日子越來越順心。
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結語:
其實,“凡事都得隨緣”不只是句口頭禪,更是一種生命的哲學。珍惜能把握的,放下強求不了的,讓自己活得簡單一些,快樂一些。不妨問問自己,現在,還有什么值得你執著不放?也許睜開眼,你就發現,隨緣之美,正在悄悄滋養你的每一天。
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