凡事都得隨緣，緣深多聚聚，緣淺隨它去

你有沒有回頭想過，為什么人生遇到的人和事，總是不由我們完全控制？我們曾經挽留過不少人，也錯失了一些機會，可最終才會慢慢明白：凡事都得隨緣，強求反而徒增煩惱。

01.人生的相逢，都是緣分使然

年少時，總覺得自己可以改變一切。遇見了喜歡的人，就拼命想靠近他們；碰到了機會，就拼命抓住不放。可一路走來才發現，有些人注定只是你生命中的過客，有些事情無論再努力，都可能離你遠去。

記得有一次老同學聚會，剛開始都熱絡得很，可后來大家各自忙碌，逐漸疏遠，其實在心里難免遺憾。但仔細想想，這或許就是緣分的自然流轉。緣深的時候，多聚聚，多聊聊；緣淺了，就順其自然，不必太糾結。

生活中，我們總是和“緣分”打交道。對父母，對朋友，對伴侶，都在一個“隨緣”的狀態下維系著。太用力地攥，反而讓彼此疲憊。反思一下，現在還有誰是你死死抓著，卻越來越遠的人呢？

02.學會放下，才能活得更自在

人到中年，我們逐漸明白了一點：有些煩惱，根本不用揪著不放。比如子女長大后、:自己的生活，很多父母還習慣插手。其實隨緣，尊重他們的選擇，你會發現家庭關系輕松多了。

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包括身體健康、事業起落，很多時候也是“能做則做，不能做隨緣”。悟透了這一層，人就不會那么焦慮，也不會因為失去某些東西而痛苦不堪。

03.隨緣是一種智慧，也是一種灑脫

凡事都得隨緣，本質上不是消極的，而是一種順勢而為。我們努力過，但也要允許事與愿違。

思考一下，這一輩子，我們到底能留下什么？無非是一些愿意與你分享快樂和痛苦的人，一段愿意被你珍重的時光。如果緣分深，彼此多聚聚，就是幸福；若是緣分淺，就隨它去，不必惋惜，給對方一個微笑，讓回憶美好。

隨緣，不代表無心，也不代表冷漠。隨緣，是懂得“留白”，懂得人生不能樣樣具備，卻可以盡情享受眼前的每一刻。

很多中老年朋友說，越是年齡大了，越感覺時間寶貴，也越懂得了隨緣的重要。家里空了，可以享受安靜；老伴出門了，可以獨自散步。緣分說聚就聚，說散就散，坦然接受，反而日子越來越順心。

結語：

其實，“凡事都得隨緣”不只是句口頭禪，更是一種生命的哲學。珍惜能把握的，放下強求不了的，讓自己活得簡單一些，快樂一些。不妨問問自己，現在，還有什么值得你執著不放？也許睜開眼，你就發現，隨緣之美，正在悄悄滋養你的每一天。